When Idaho-born Headley, a 20-year-old NYU drama student, laments, "I felt like
I'd dated and then hated every man in Manhattan," she thinks perhaps she's too
critical. So she "decided that I would say yes to every man who asked me out on
a date." It sounds disastrous, even scary, though she chose to exclude the
drunk, the drugged, the violent, and cheating husbands.1
Not to worry, I have no intention of implementing the same strategy in my (non)dating life. I'm more interested in the idea of challenging the definitions I have of "this is what I like/want." I'm still the number one draft pick when it comes to being spontaneous, but I don't think that I have worked outside of my comfort zone as much as I used to. Part of the post-college years is definitely figuring out what you like and setting up rules, but now - I want to challenge them and try things that I say I hate.
I've come up with various ideas to implement this new strategery:
- Go to a steakhouse. I haven't had beef in .... 17 years. I don't think I can actually eat a steak (it might kill me.) But maybe I can have a little piece of someone else's.
- Buy a TV. I haven't owned my own, um, ever. My friends jokingly refer to me as a Luddite, and that's at least partially true.
- Pick a random upcoming concert in a genre I wouldn't usually consider, listen to the artist's music beforehand and go.
- Hang out in the Marina on a Sunday (soooooo not who I consider my peeps.)
- Choose a random sport and start taking lessons or playing. (Bowling? Hawaiian outrigger canoe?)
I'm just thinking out blog here, but the basic idea is for me to say 'Yes' more often to things I think that I don't enjoy. Actually, perhaps it is broader than that - maybe it is more like becoming more open to new and (as a friend would say) "different different" experiences.
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