Monday, July 04, 2005

Who are you...

...and what have you done with my mother??

That's what I'd like to know following my most recent phone call with ma mere. She has told me a few times that I need to "slow down and pace myself," and she just told me "not to worry - it will all come together soon."

This may not sound worrisome to you, but my mom is NOT known for being supportive. Evidence:

  • the week before my second marathon, she asked me, "How do you know you can finish???" Keep in mind she watched me cross the finish line at my first marathon.
  • Studying for LSAT, I mentioned that the logic games are kind of a pain - my mother said "well, maybe law school isn't for you."
  • And, finally, when I was buying my place, my mom said, "But, what will you do if you can't pay the mortgage?"

I should be thrilled that my mom has morphed into cheering from the sidelines, but I'm taken aback.

My relationship with my mother has changed over the years (and thanggod!) I think I assume that because she is family, somehow, that THAT relationship will always stay more or less the same. And that's so not true.

5 comments:

shell said...

Ah...mothers...
Can't live with them...can't live without them.

brimful said...

Big fat word- I have similar issues with my mom. When I decide she's just unsupportive and always will be, she'll come up with something really uplifting to say. When I think she's going to be all motherly from here on out, she'll pop off a "well maybe law school isn't for you" type of comment (without the law school part of course). They're hard ones to peg, that lot. ;)

Maitri said...

My mater did something similar a couple of days ago. Trick: Don't warm up to seemingly new mom. You'll never know when she reverts 'cuz she's all ninja like that.

maisnon said...

My mom is SO ninja - point taken, Maitri! In fact, I will post soon about her true Jedi-styles!

Anonymous said...

and here i thought it was only my mom. on the day i had my driver's test, she said, "you're going to fail!" i got a perfect score. she said, "i don't believe it!"

desi moms think their job is to beat you down before the world does.