...you can go and brush your shoulder off...
So. Enough is enough. SJM swears its a Bay area thing. Personally, I think it might be an age thing. Whatever it is - I'm done with people flaking on me. A number of behaviors fall into this rubric. They include:
- Never RSVPng to invites
- RSVPng indicating attendance, and then not showing up
- Calling and canceling shortly before we were to meet up
- Being consistently late (more than 15-20 minutes)
- Not getting in touch to firm up tentative plans when the ball is in your court
Because I am done with this behavior* - I am launching Operation Head & Shoulders. Part of the reason that flaking has become so acceptable in this area/age group (depending on your point of view) is that so many people do it - it's like it's not rude any more. Well, I still think it is. So, from now on, when people flake, one of two things will happen. The first time (or when I start to notice a pattern), I will call them out on the flaking. "Calling someone out" involves pointing out that they flaked, and that the onus is on them to make plans next time. The second time someone flakes, well - no more invites.
This goes against my very ethos: invite everyone to every thing. But, there you have it, my attempt to reduce or eliminate flakes.
* This isn't to say that all cancellations etc. are unforgivable. Occasionally, you get jammed at work, or traffic is a bear, or a friend from out of town suddenly plans a visit. Things happen, the question is whether it's a pattern of behavior.